There are worst things in life than being too friendly with your husband's ex-wife but there are boundaries.
I have been more than fortunate in my dealings with the ex-wife. She and I have been cordial and pleasant for the kids' sake and mostly, she and I have had a good rapport. We only really interact when we're transferring the kids' stuff every week. We share custody, 50/50, so one of us drops their stuff off at each other's houses every Monday. Sometimes there's no interaction because she will just leave their stuff in the entrance if I'm not home. And there are times she offers to drive my step-daughter to school (it's a 10minute walk otherwise)... which is generous of the ex and it gives her a chance to see her daughter on weeks she doesn't have her. My issue is when she is 20 minutes early picking her up.
Anyone else in this situation would kill time, stop at Starbucks or even wait in the car. What she does is walks right into my house and hangs out. I'm still in my pj's, making breakfast for my toddler and stepdaughter, I haven't even had my first cup of coffee yet. If there's one thing I need to wake up in the morning, it's coffee. And not with my husband's ex-wife. Twenty minutes is a long time feeling uncomfortable in your own house. Especially that it turned awkward after 5minutes. What am I supposed to do? My instinct was to offer her coffee because that's what I would do for friends, but we're not "friends". And that's ok.
I respect you and your space. Please offer me the same courtesy.
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